“Building Your Child’s Confidence the Right Way”
Parents want their children to feel confident and capable, but sometimes in our efforts to bolster self-esteem we inadvertently do more harm than good.
According to recent studies, the psychological damage that can be caused by making a child feel inadequate is actually quite severe – and it can last well into adulthood.
The best way for parents to help their children build confidence is through encouragement and support rather than praise or rewards. This will give them a sense of accomplishment without any feelings of inadequacy.
All children are different and will respond to different parenting styles. Some kids need a lot of encouragement and positive reinforcement, while others respond better to a more hands-off approach. But one thing all parents should avoid is making their children feel inadequate.
It’s important for kids to feel like they can accomplish things, no matter how challenging they seem at the moment.
You know that old saying, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”? Well, it turns out that’s not true. There are ways to help our kids and ourselves learn new things throughout life.
Here are Seven principles for helping your child build their confidence so they can be the best person they can be.
1. Teach them to Learn from their failures and focus on what they’re capable of and remind your child of their past successes.
Teach them how to be kind to themselves when they make mistakes or fail at something and that this is okay and should not affect who they really are as a person.
Tell your child you love them just the way they are even if they’re struggling with something right now because we all go through those moments. Let them know that sometimes we embrace our weaknesses instead of focusing on our strengths because it can lead us down an interesting path.
Help your child find inspiration within, rather than comparing themselves to others children’s successes. They will begin to believe in their abilities once more and become less
2. Encourage your child to take risks and don’t be afraid of failure.
Teach them that it’s okay to make mistakes and that this is what helps us grow and become better in life.
Role model confidence in everything you do in order to help your child learn how they should behave.
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3. Model confident behavior for your child. Let them see you overcome your own fears and challenges.
Mommy doesn’t always know everything, but she always tries her best.
If you’re a parent, there’s a good chance you want your child to feel confident in themselves. You want them to be able to overcome any obstacle that comes their way and be successful in anything they do. However, raising confident kids can be difficult.
We all make mistakes, even as parents. It’s important to remember that when we’re raising kids and teaching them how to be confident. We need to show them that it’s okay to make mistakes and that this is how we learn and grow in life.
Another thing to keep in mind is that confidence doesn’t come easy for everyone. It can be something that we struggle with throughout our lives
4. Praise effort over results: It’s not about winning it’s about learning.
The goal is to go to bed each night thinking “I did the best I could today” rather than congratulating yourself for what you achieved.
Encourage your child to take risks, help them learn from their failures, don’t be afraid to fail, and most importantly let them know you believe in them no matter what.
When kids are given room to explore they gain confidence in themselves. A good way of parenting is by letting kids test their limits and encouraging them not to give up. If mommy can do it then so can you!
Just remember that life goes on even if your child gets an answer wrong or doesn’t succeed at first. Since we all go through struggles there’s nothing more satisfying than watching our children grow into confident adults that overcome any obstacle with
5. Help them find a role model or mentor who has qualities you want your child to emulate:
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When it comes to raising confident kids, one of the most important things you can do as a parent is to set a good example for yourself. Kids will watch everything we do and learn from it, so if we want them to be confident in themselves then we need to act confidently ourselves.
If you’re having a hard time with this, don’t worry, there are plenty of resources out there to help you. There are books, articles, websites, programs, and even mentors that can help you teach your child how to be confident.
One program that I highly recommend is Mastery martial arts. I’m not just saying that because I’m a part of it, I genuinely believe in the program and what it has done for my own kids.
Mastery Certified Instructors are experts in bringing out the best in karate kids.
6. Find opportunities for success by setting achievable goals with deadlines:
Goal setting for kids can be about more than just academics. It can be used to develop confidence in other areas of their life as well.
Do you have a hard time setting goals for yourself? No worries, kids often learn better by watching us! You can use your own challenges with setting goals and try to make them achievable even if it means breaking them down into smaller pieces.
Another thing I recommend is finding role models who’ve lived through similar struggles to what you’re experiencing now. If you don’t know any then why not look up “people who are great at goal setting” or people who have overcome their own personal struggles and challenges to impact the world. Find out how they achieved the success they have, let them teach you how to do it yourself.
7. Give constructive feedback when there is something your child needs.
Give your child the feedback that they need and want. Listen to what they have to say and really listen, not just (unintentionally) using them as a distraction from your own life.
How do we make sure we’re giving the right feedback? We observe our kids closely and pay attention to their behavior. If your child is doing something that may be harmful to themselves or others then it’s important that you give such feedback (constructively of course). But there are other ways you can provide constructive feedback as well. For example, instead of saying “I love you!” simply smile at your child and watch their face light up with joy at being appreciated. That’s more powerful than hearing those words if your child doesn’t know how much you care about them.
Parents are the ones that help shape their children into confident individuals. If you want your child to overcome challenges then they should be able to do it themselves. The way you teach them is by being a role model yourself and showing them how to be confident in themselves. Start off by setting goals for yourself so that you have something to work towards. Then, give constructive feedback when your child needs it while also listening closely to what they have to say. When all of this is done you’ll end up with an amazing relationship with your child that will last for years!
Raising confident kids can be a lot of work, but it’s definitely worth it in the end. Just by being a role model and setting achievable goals, you can help them overcome any challenge that comes their way! Remember to provide constructive feedback when they need it and always listen closely to what they have to say. With a little bit of effort on your part, your child will become a confident individual that you can be proud of. Thanks for reading! 🙂
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